Learning to Manifest Abundance? Start by Telling Your Friends
by Romana Hai
August 7, 2019 .4 min read
Did you know that when you share your goals with others, you are twice as likely to achieve them rather than if you kept the goals to yourself? Think about it, if you have an exercise buddy or fitness trainer, for example, your likelihood of following through with your fitness goals are much higher.
Because you’re held accountable by someone other than yourself.
When you voice your goals to others, you’re more likely to be motivated to stick to your goals so you can:
avoid being called out
uphold your reputation
And we all know you can make almost anything a goal. Whether it be a fitness goal, a financial goal, or even a more mindful approach goal, goals can be made. But what’s most important is holding yourself and your friends involved, accountable for them.
That said, partnering up with the right person when it comes to goal setting and accountability is critical.
Going back to our fitness example (above), let’s say you decided to opt for a buddy rather than a trainer. This scenario can go either of two ways:
you’re just not motivated enough and you fail to meet them at the gym
you’re more motivated than you were working out alone, so you make it a priority to get to the gym and keep up with your goals
If you find yourself falling into scenario one, where you’re just not motivated to stick to your goal, it’s one thing to question how important the goal is to you, but it’s also important to wonder if you partnered with the right person to hold you accountable for your goal. Both factors, in this case, are important.
If you find that your partner isn’t motivated or has not made fitness a priority and would rather do something else in their spare time, it might be best to find a more suitable candidate for your goal partnership.
Stepping away from the fitness goal and going into more financial goals; when selecting a buddy to hold you accountable and motivated, it’s best to look for someone with the same situation. In this case, the same financial situation.
While you can partner up with someone with a very different financial situation and/or goal, you’re more likely to succeed at your own goal, if you and your buddy have similar goals in mind.
For example, if you want to cut back on eating out so you can lower dining expenses, consider buddying up with someone who wants to do the same. And maybe ask if your partner wants to try meal prepping during the workweek.
In this case, it just wouldn’t make sense to partner up with someone who isn’t interested in cutting back on their dining expenses. Your goals here are seeming quite the opposite and will feel impossible if you're working with someone who doesn't mind eating out more often while you're trying to save.
After you have found someone with similar goals in mind or simply the right person to motivate you to stick to your goals, it’s important that you have some tactics in your back pocket to help you along the way. You know… for the days where all motivation that you thought you had, seems lost.
Here are a few ways to keep you and your friends accountable for your goals:
1. Write your goals down
While you may have voiced your goals to yourself and your partner, writing them down can help cement things. This especially helps if you’re more of a visual person.
Be sure to write your goals down in a place where you know you’ll see them every day. I personally have a thing for to-do lists or lists in general, so the “Reminders” application on my iPhone is a pure gem when it comes to setting goals.
I have everything from daily to-do’s to bill reminders to long-term to-dos. For some of the items I have on any of my lists, I set alarms and mark the priority level.
2. Create mico-goals to help you achieve that bigger goal
Sometimes your overall end goal may need some micro-goals in place to make it achievable. And that’s totally normal.
For example, if your goal is to put away $400 a month into a savings account, but you already know that you attend way too many social events on a weekly basis to make that happen, this goal might seem a little tough to achieve. However, it's still doable. Instead of quitting your social life altogether, try only attending 1-2 social events a week to make that savings goal more achievable.
Make your micro-goals attainable. Creating such goals can and will help you achieve some of your biggest goals; you just have to stick to it.
3. Reward yourself and your friends
Rewarding yourself and your friends during this process is essential. It’s one of the many factors that can make this entire process a success.
But rewarding yourself when appropriate is important.
For example, if you and your friends set a goal to only eat out once or twice a week, for every two weeks that you accomplish this goal, reward you and your friend by going to get a cup of froyo or splitting a cupcake.
Whatever you do, just make sure your reward does not cancel out any of the progress you’ve made thus far. So in this case, if you went two weeks with only eating out one in each week, maybe it’s not the best idea to reward yourself by eating out.
Partnering up with a buddy to hold yourself accountable for a goal is a great idea, not only for you but your friend involved. Why? Because you’re both more likely to succeed with the help and motivation of someone who has the same or similar aspirations. So, hold each other accountable, write your goals down, set micro-goals and reward yourself occasionally for all your hard work.
Romana Hai is a marketing consultant who has worked for several years in the financial services industry.